Reading an article by Steven Hayes, I was reminded how so many people want to be "normal". But what IS normal? Generally, it is defined as the "average"; the "usual"; the "typical".
It turns out that hardly anyone ever fits the description of "normal" or "average". Put simply: we pretty much collectively are anything BUT normal or average, and ideally don't try to be.
In counselling and mental health it is the same: if we define mental health as an average of sorts, we make a big mistake. If we define mental ill-health, or mental illness, as an average of sorts, we make a big mistake.
The preferred way in counselling is to leave "normal" and "usual" out of the equation, and only look at what YOUR life trajectory is, and what YOU would like to get out of it, and where things ARE and ARE NOT working for YOU.
That way, we can together find a way that suits you, rather than a way that has been described as the "norm", but that hardly fits anyone, ever; most likely definitely not you.
Hi, my name is Marc. I call myself a counsellor & coach “with a twist”.
Born and raised in the Netherlands, I forged a career as a litigation lawyer (barrister and solicitor) in commercial and criminal Law, before making the move to Mental Health (and to Australia).
In my counselling and coaching work, I still use many of the communication and problem-solving skills I acquired as a barrister/solicitor! Moreover, aside from using the evidence-based modalities every counsellor ideally uses, I also possess a strong spiritual, transpersonal streak. I like to discuss life and its issues from Bigger Picture perspectives, focusing on values, beliefs, inspiration, mindfulness and positive psychology.
If you're looking for a run-of-the-mill generic counsellor or coach, feel free to keep looking and contact one of my very capable colleagues.
If you’re looking for a mind-expanding (yet still very practical and down-to-earth) discussion regarding your personal and professional life, to effectively work through whatever mental health related topics have come up, AND would like to live life YOUR way and in a better way: let’s talk.
Your an incredible person with such knowledge, kindness and understanding, I love listening to you speak
I love this post!!!
In online buying vernacular,
I would consider myself a “verified purchaser” of Marc’s counselling services. I would rate Mr de Bruin 10/10 and would definitely recommend.
If you want a compassionate, thoughtful and very insightful counsellor, look no further. ☺️
Is that the space you work from Marc? Love the sunflowers!!!