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2 weeks ago
Marc de Bruin

How we "see" people determines how we "portray" people.

I'm not delving into the "is there an objective reality?" question (although my answer would be "no" 😁).

I'm purely pointing to the fact that we cannot see a person in any other way than through our personal lens, and that will affect the way we treat them/behave towards them.

Something to keep in mind when we meet someone. Can we really "see" them?

youtu.be/F-TyPfYMDK8

#PerceptionsColourReality
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And the answer to this is no too

4 weeks ago
Marc de Bruin

It's so simple...

[But not always easy]

#Simple #StopComparing #YouAreAwesome
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Its so simple...

[But not always easy]

#Simple #StopComparing #YouAreAwesome
1 month ago
Marc de Bruin

Reading an article by Steven Hayes, I was reminded how so many people want to be "normal". But what IS normal? Generally, it is defined as the "average"; the "usual"; the "typical".

It turns out that hardly anyone ever fits the description of "normal" or "average". Put simply: we pretty much collectively are anything BUT normal or average, and ideally don't try to be.

In counselling and mental health it is the same: if we define mental health as an average of sorts, we make a big mistake. If we define mental ill-health, or mental illness, as an average of sorts, we make a big mistake.

The preferred way in counselling is to leave "normal" and "usual" out of the equation, and only look at what YOUR life trajectory is, and what YOU would like to get out of it, and where things ARE and ARE NOT working for YOU.

That way, we can together find a way that suits you, rather than a way that has been described as the "norm", but that hardly fits anyone, ever; most likely definitely not you.

Here's the Todd Rose TED Talk "The Myth of Average" I mention in my video: youtu.be/4eBmyttcfU4

#MythOfAverage #counselling

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